Today’s guest blogger is Lex from cupcakesniper. I have no idea how I stumbled upon Lex’s blog, but I am so glad I did. She is a beautiful woman who continually inspires me through her blog posts whether it’s through her fashion or her faith. She’s pretty much great. Lex and her husband and newbies to marriage, but I thought it would be fun to get perspective from them because there are a lot of things about marriage that you sort of forget when you’re not newlyweds anymore. So, without further ado, here they are!
What’s your love story?
I guess before we can tell you our love story, it would be appropriate to introduce ourselves, We’re Alex and Lex. Just two young whippersnappers who fell in love and got hitched.
We met when we were 14, well I guess technically, Alex was 14 and I was 15. We sat next to each other at a youth camp, on a bus heading towards North Carolina. He was anti-social and shy and I was outgoing and happened to love people who were anti-social. We lost touch though and reunited our friendship about 3 years ago when I started working at our church and he just happened to be the sound engineer there. That summer our hangouts became more frequent and he would ask me to come over and go jogging, skating and even to help him pick out a doggy (he knew I was a sucker for animals). He became my bestfriend. God showed me that December that he was the one for me, which made it quite a shocker when he took me out to lunch to tell me we wouldn’t be able to be friends anymore because he was going to ask out another girl. I was so confused; I knew I had heard God so clearly. I was not aware though that God was about to use that painful time to do a work in me and draw me nearer. God became my best friend. Alex and the girl he had been dating severed their relationship sometime in April and in May our friendship was restored. My first reaction was NO GOD WHY! I didn’t want to have feelings for him again, but God had other plans and confirmed to us both we were for each other. Six months later we were engaged and six months after that, June 7th, we got married! Everyone was surprised at how nonchalant I was being the week before and days before the wedding because I wasn’t nervous or afraid or freaking out, I knew this was the man I was supposed to marry! Alex carried along in that same behavior. We were dying to get married already and excited for not having to say goodbye anymore. We’ve been married 6 months now and it’s been a great adventure! We can’t wait for our 60th anniversary!
Fill in the blank:
“The best thing about marriage is_________.”
Lex: From my lady perspective, the best thing about marriage is falling asleep and waking up in his arms and having someone to protect me from all the monsters at night. Who else would walk me to the bathroom at 3am cause I’m scared? A lifelong buddy to have adventures with!
Alex: From my manly perspective, I have to say the best thing about marriage is never having to be alone or bored anymore cause there’s always someone to talk to.
Fill in the blank:
“The most challenging thing about marriage is_________.”
Lex: The most challenging thing about marriage for me is that we are two people, raised completely differently, living under one roof. It’s getting used to changes and understanding where the other person comes from. It’s easy to be offended by something you never grew up seeing, but when you see it through that person’s background, you can see that there was no ill intention. I think it’s getting used to changes and molding to each other. We are different for a reason. One will have strengths where the other is weak, and though they may cause a few arguments, I believe God allows these differences to mold us into who He created us to be, although it’s not always the funnest way to be refined. Another challenge is not being prideful and humbling yourself even when you think you’re right. That submission will get ya ;).
Alex: The most challenging thing about marriage for me is not being a jerk.
Fill in the blank:
“My favorite thing about my spouse is_________.”
Lex: His heart to serve and protect me, and eagerness to make me laugh.
Alex: Her big fat heart.
What’s your secret to a happy
marriage and making it work?
Lex: I honestly don’t think I’m qualified to answer this, but here’s my opinion:
I think the secret to a happy marriage is the Bible, to love God above everything and then putting your spouse before yourself. It’s our selfishness, needs, wants, and the media telling us that our spouse is there to make us happy that can destroy marriage and just the simple moments of our day. If we learn to love like 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres. Love never fails.” Of course this is all a lot easier said than done, but I think it’s where the secret to a happy marriage lies.
Alex: Don’t ever just think about yourself. “Yourself” doesn’t matter anymore.
Thanks guys!
oops I had made a typo in “Alex and my relationship severed sometime in April and in May our friendship was restored.” It was his previous relationship with the girl he told me about in December.
In may we became friends again.
Lauren you are the sweetest girl ever and I hope that you guys have a long week of Happy Anniversary moments!! Happy 2 year anniversary! I can’t wait to hear yours!!
oh my goodness! they are so cute! i love them! I agree with them on like everything! i think it is so cute, their whole story. i will have to go check out their blog! thanks for sharing this lauren!!
this is beautiful! and I completely agree with your opinion on the secret to marriage. I believe that God has to be the center in which all other things revolve. 🙂
Love your blog, Lex!
cute cute cute!
I got a severe case of the flutterbies while reading this post.
Love is such a wonderful and amazing thing!
Ehx oh
Tori
This is really a great series. Keep up the good work!
What a beautiful post. Such sweet souls. I love that wedding shot!
oh how sweet! They seem like such a loving couple!
UMM…..I really loved this post. SO BEAUTIFUL.
um, your blog is way cuter. i’m totally following.
thanks for the compliment!
Love you blog! I adore the idea of your posts marriage: making it work! I agree…beautiful post!
i’ve gotta agree with Lex on what she said abt falling asleep & waking up in her partner’s arms and feeling all protected. bf n myself arent married but we do live 2gether, and i feel THE exact SAME way that she does. it’s always heartwarming to noe that there’s this SOMEONE who’ll be there. I love to wake up to the sounds of bf’s snores and c his cute sleeping face ;D
what a lovely story!
oh yes, you have dibs. i’ll make sure of it!
xoxo
sarah ann
shehasastorytotell.blogspot.com
Very cute couple. They both know a lot more than most couples, on how to make a marriage work (and to think that they have been married for only 6 months!). These posts have been heartwarming and precious. Thanks to all for sharing your stories.